Learning To Let Go

Last Updated on September 3, 2020 by Paula

learning to let go


The past may be holding you back.  Let go, make peace, move on

Something can end eventually…and unexpectedly.

It may be a relationship or a job.  Whatever it is, we dwell on the what-ifs, desire for an explanation and wish for a closure.

Women are that way, I guess.

We always want to put all loose ends together.  Somehow, we have this feeling that when we let go without any reason, we feel like we are losing control.

Worse, we tend to obsess over things we should have done and what could have been.

Brooding is totally unhealthy.

You can do the following instead to free you from your what-ifs and uncertainty:


Usually, moving on isn’t happening because we don’t know how we should react to a difficult situation.  Try to contemplate on it.  Try to figure out if you have actually gained insight from what you have gone through.    Eventually, you will have a clearer sense of what you need to do.


Think of all the good reasons why you should stop dwelling on your misery.

Choose the most convincing one.

I did a list like this one once because I was brooding over a little fight with an old high school best friend that got bigger and bigger.

The best reason on my list:  “I don’t need to waste my time and energy on people who don’t even care for me.” If you start to brood more, list more convincing reasons.  Eventually, you wouldn’t be blaming yourself anymore.


Your misery and pain will inevitably rise at times.  When these happen, think of your feelings as a song on the radio.  Slowly tune out.  You  are not totally denying and forcing your feelings away.    You are just realizing what they truly are.  After that, you can focus on more important and productive matters.


Write and express every single emotion you feel on paper.  Then burn it.  Doing so will eventually prompt you to accept the situation.

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  1. There is always a time for grief… but it shouldn't be too long or that may turn pathologic. I agree, don't let the past hold you back. Sometimes, better things actually come out of a not so good experience… a blessing in disguise!

  2. I thank God for teaching me how to overcome things such as letting go of the past. Letting go to any bad and negative instances was kinda hard for me. My self esteem was low and I am less confident. And I grinned reading your post. I am reminded of that not-so-good "me" years back. 🙂

  3. I've always believed that acceptance is the key to moving on. It's all in our mind and we have the power to control it. I know its easy to say and hard to do but it's still worth a try.

  4. Thank you for sharing these words. Ang wrong timing pero in this season of happiness medyo I'm going through a real funk. Hindi ako depressed pero bothered. On the one hand, parang I get the wisdom of it and I sort of know what to do to move on. But on the other hand, parang hindi rin. Hay. Gulo. But again, thanks 🙂

  5. I find it very helpful to write in a journal . I still remember how hard 2009 was but i made a blast welcoming 2010 by focusing on positive energy and love.

  6. Thank you so much for this beautiful article. It's something that one should remember before this year ends, to let go of the past hurts and grudges and to move on to a better year and a better life.

  7. Write and express every single emotion you feel on paper. — This is my best way too to let go of my emotions. very effective! 🙂

  8. good points here
    brooding make our mind and body go into overdrive, it can lead us to feelings of anxiety and cause us to be physically ill
    as you said, let it go and move on

  9. These are all good pints and I love that thing in your list….don't waste my time and energy on people who don't even care for me.

    This is indeed very true!

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts…

  10. I did a 360 degrees turn from my past. But you know sometimes the memories come back and make me feel regretful and sad. But when I remember how God changed my life and see my life now, I become grateful and peaceful once again.
    From BCB po 🙂

  11. Letting go of a past baggage is truly liberating but difficult to do at times. However with the assistance of our good Lord, nothing is impossible 🙂

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