Learning To Let Go
Last Updated on September 3, 2020 by Paula
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LEARNING TO LET GO/MAKING PEACE WITH YOURSELF
The past may be holding you back. Let go, make peace, move on
Something can end eventually…and unexpectedly.
It may be a relationship or a job. Whatever it is, we dwell on the what-ifs, desire for an explanation and wish for a closure.
Women are that way, I guess.
We always want to put all loose ends together. Somehow, we have this feeling that when we let go without any reason, we feel like we are losing control.
Worse, we tend to obsess over things we should have done and what could have been.
Brooding is totally unhealthy.
You can do the following instead to free you from your what-ifs and uncertainty:
GAIN WISDOM
Usually, moving on isn’t happening because we don’t know how we should react to a difficult situation. Try to contemplate on it. Try to figure out if you have actually gained insight from what you have gone through. Eventually, you will have a clearer sense of what you need to do.
GET YOURSELF OUT OF THE FUNK
Think of all the good reasons why you should stop dwelling on your misery.
Choose the most convincing one.
I did a list like this one once because I was brooding over a little fight with an old high school best friend that got bigger and bigger.
The best reason on my list: “I don’t need to waste my time and energy on people who don’t even care for me.” If you start to brood more, list more convincing reasons. Eventually, you wouldn’t be blaming yourself anymore.
TUNE OUT… SLOWLY
Your misery and pain will inevitably rise at times. When these happen, think of your feelings as a song on the radio. Slowly tune out. You are not totally denying and forcing your feelings away. You are just realizing what they truly are. After that, you can focus on more important and productive matters.
EXPRESS YOURSELF
Write and express every single emotion you feel on paper. Then burn it. Doing so will eventually prompt you to accept the situation.
Time definitely heals all, and it always helps me to remember that everything happens for a reason. A person does have to let go of the past to move forward. Brilliant post.
Kathy
http://gigglingtruckerswife.blogspot.com
This is helpful to not live on regrets. Regrets take the joy out of enjoying the present.
Everything happens for a reason and we must learn in each trial we go through. Yes, move forward and don't let yesterday hold us back.
Mommy Maye
http://www.momaye.com
There is always a time for grief… but it shouldn't be too long or that may turn pathologic. I agree, don't let the past hold you back. Sometimes, better things actually come out of a not so good experience… a blessing in disguise!
I thank God for teaching me how to overcome things such as letting go of the past. Letting go to any bad and negative instances was kinda hard for me. My self esteem was low and I am less confident. And I grinned reading your post. I am reminded of that not-so-good "me" years back. 🙂
Although the pain is still there, I was able to let go of the grief and moved on.
I've always believed that acceptance is the key to moving on. It's all in our mind and we have the power to control it. I know its easy to say and hard to do but it's still worth a try.
Beautifully written and true. Keep moving forward!
Thank you for sharing these words. Ang wrong timing pero in this season of happiness medyo I'm going through a real funk. Hindi ako depressed pero bothered. On the one hand, parang I get the wisdom of it and I sort of know what to do to move on. But on the other hand, parang hindi rin. Hay. Gulo. But again, thanks 🙂
Time passes and with every day that passes things get better especially when you give up so much
I find it very helpful to write in a journal . I still remember how hard 2009 was but i made a blast welcoming 2010 by focusing on positive energy and love.
Thank you so much for this beautiful article. It's something that one should remember before this year ends, to let go of the past hurts and grudges and to move on to a better year and a better life.
Write and express every single emotion you feel on paper. — This is my best way too to let go of my emotions. very effective! 🙂
Such an inspiring entry. will definitely share this with a friend.
good points here
brooding make our mind and body go into overdrive, it can lead us to feelings of anxiety and cause us to be physically ill
as you said, let it go and move on
These are all good pints and I love that thing in your list….don't waste my time and energy on people who don't even care for me.
This is indeed very true!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts…
Well we all need to let go and of course move forward. Thanks for sharing this post.
I did a 360 degrees turn from my past. But you know sometimes the memories come back and make me feel regretful and sad. But when I remember how God changed my life and see my life now, I become grateful and peaceful once again.
From BCB po 🙂
Letting go of a past baggage is truly liberating but difficult to do at times. However with the assistance of our good Lord, nothing is impossible 🙂
letting go is something that is not easy to do but in God's time and with his guidance all is possible – Rosemarie/Gven-Rose
Thanks for this great tips and words of wisdom or advice. Really an eye opener for all of us.
Brooding definitely is a NO NO! It is not easy but prayer helps a lot! Thanks for your tips!